{"id":113557,"date":"2010-10-11T23:01:49","date_gmt":"2010-10-11T20:01:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.17047165566933.sritis.lt\/index.php\/2010\/10\/11\/konfliktas-del-kapavietes-aitrina-emocijas\/"},"modified":"2010-10-11T23:01:49","modified_gmt":"2010-10-11T20:01:49","slug":"konfliktas-del-kapavietes-aitrina-emocijas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/2010\/10\/11\/konfliktas-del-kapavietes-aitrina-emocijas\/","title":{"rendered":"Konfliktas d\u0117l kapaviet\u0117s aitrina emocijas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Egl\u0117 KVIESULAITIEN\u0116<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Keistomis aplinkyb\u0117mis \u017euvusiam vilkavi\u0161kie\u010diui net po mirties n\u0117ra ramyb\u0117s.<br \/>\n<br \/>D\u0117l jo kapaviet\u0117s tarp giminai\u010di\u0173 verda aistros.<br \/>\n<br \/><b><br \/>Gyvi pykosi<\/b><br \/>\n<br \/>Vilkavi\u0161kiet\u0117 Roma Kvasauskien\u0117 \u012fsitikinusi, kad \u012f jos uo\u0161vi\u0173 kapaviet\u0119 \u017eento palaikai atgul\u0117 neteis\u0117tai. Viena su savo dukterimis pri\u017ei\u016br\u0117jusi uo\u0161vi\u0173 am\u017eino poilsio viet\u0105, sta\u010diusi paminkl\u0105 ir nuolat lankiusi kapus, moteris nesuvokia, kod\u0117l laidojant giminait\u012f niekas nepaklaus\u0117 jos valios. Moteris sak\u0117 suprantanti, kad teisi\u0161kai niekas negali u\u017edrausti dukrai t\u0117v\u0173 kapaviet\u0117je palaidoti savo vyr\u0105. Ta\u010diau R. Kvasauskien\u0117 i\u0161gyvena d\u0117l moralini\u0173 dalyk\u0173. Mat jos anyta tikrai neb\u016bt\u0173 nor\u0117jusi am\u017einyb\u0117je ils\u0117tis drauge su \u017eentu ar dukra Zita, su kuriais b\u016bdama gyva buvo mirtinai susipykusi.<br \/>\n<br \/>Braukdama a\u0161aras R. Kvasauskien\u0117 pasakojo apie \u012ftemptus gimin\u0117s santykius, kilusius d\u0117l pinig\u0173. Tarp Romos anytos ir jos dukros Zitos konfliktas kilo tada, kai \u0161i po t\u0117vo mirties pareikalavo dalies pinig\u0173. Turto dalybos buvo pasiekusios net teismus. Po to motina, anot R. Kvasauskien\u0117s, pasakiusi, kad dukters net prie jos karsto neprileist\u0173. \u0160i ir pati nesiver\u017e\u0117: \u012f laidotuves at\u0117jo tik \u017eentas ir an\u016bk\u0117. Daugiau bendravimo tarp giminai\u010di\u0173 prakti\u0161kai ir nebuvo \u2013 tiek, kiek reik\u0117jo tvarkyti turtinius reikalus.<br \/>\n<br \/><b><br \/>Band\u0117 pad\u0117ti<\/b><br \/>\n<br \/>R. Kvasauskien\u0117 \u012fsitikinusi, kad nei dukra Zita, nei \u017eentas su an\u016bke niekada t\u0117vuk\u0173 kapaviet\u0117s net nelank\u0117. Jie net ne\u017einojo, jog paminkle, kalant vardus, \u0161ie buvo sumai\u0161yti vietomis. Tod\u0117l prie\u0161 kelias savaites laidojant \u017eent\u0105 duob\u0117 i\u0161kasta toje pus\u0117je, kur prie\u0161 14 met\u0173 buvo palaidota velionio uo\u0161v\u0117. Taip buvo pa\u017eeisti \u012fstatymai, leid\u017eiantys kapaviet\u0119 kasin\u0117ti ne anks\u010diau kaip po 20 met\u0173.<br \/>\n<br \/>R. Kvasauskien\u0117 konsultavosi netgi su teisininkais. Jei b\u016bt\u0173 galimyb\u0117, moteris siekt\u0173, kad giminaitis b\u016bt\u0173 perlaidotas \u012f kit\u0105 kapaviet\u0119.<br \/>\n<br \/>\u2013 Juk visai netoli, tose pa\u010diose kapin\u0117se, palaidoti Zitos vyro t\u0117vai. Kod\u0117l ten negal\u0117jo laidoti? Ai\u0161ku, kad jie ty\u010dia taip mums padar\u0117. Bet juk ne\u017emoni\u0161ka \u0161itaip elgtis, \u2013 d\u0117l uo\u0161vi\u0173 kapaviet\u0117s vis graudinosi marti.<br \/>\n<br \/>Moteris pasakojo, jog su\u017einojusi apie Albino Valentos mirt\u012f labai u\u017ejaut\u0117 Zit\u0105 ir j\u0173 dukr\u0105 Ilon\u0105. Nuo ma\u017eum\u0117s negali\u0105 turin\u010diai ir sunkiai vaik\u0161tan\u010diai Zitai vyras buv\u0119s gyvenime tikras ramstis. Tod\u0117l Roma maniusi, kad po laidotuvi\u0173 gal net pavyks susitaikyti ir bendrauti su giminait\u0117mis. Tuo labiau jog Ilona \u2013 jos krik\u0161to dukt\u0117.<br \/>\n<br \/>\u2013 Visaip stengiausi pad\u0117ti per laidotuves, sukvie\u010diau kaimynus, r\u016bpinausi ir net ne\u012ftariau, kad jos taip man padarys. Dar klausiau, kur ketina laidoti Albin\u0105, tai melavo, jog prie jo artim\u0173j\u0173, \u2013 piktinosi R. Kvasauskien\u0117.<br \/>\n<br \/><b><br \/>Netik\u0117ta mirtis<\/b><br \/>\n<br \/>Tuo tarpu neseniai skaud\u017ei\u0105 netekt\u012f i\u0161gyvenusios Zita Valentien\u0117 ir jos dukt\u0117 Ilona Malinauskien\u0117 mano visai kitaip. Moterys dar negali atsitok\u0117ti d\u0117l netik\u0117tos t\u0117\u010dio ir vyro \u017e\u016bties.<br \/>\n<br \/>\u201eSantakoje\u201c ra\u0161\u0117me apie nelaim\u0119, rugs\u0117jo 17 d. nutikusi\u0105 prie \u0160irvintos up\u0117s. Tada automobiliu nuvyk\u0119s \u012f sod\u0105, 65-eri\u0173 Albinas Valenta nu\u0117jo apsidairyti prie upelio. Kit\u0105 dien\u0105 vyro k\u016bnas rastas pl\u016bduriuojantis \u0160irvintoje. Automobilyje jo laukusi nepaeinanti Zita negal\u0117jo net prisi\u0161aukti pagalbos. J\u0105 rado atsitiktinai u\u017eklyd\u0119 \u017emon\u0117s.<br \/>\n<br \/>Dukra Ilona ir dabar sp\u0117lioja, kas gal\u0117jo nutikti t\u0117\u010diui. Galb\u016bt kelis insultus anks\u010diau patyrusiam vyrui sutriko  sveikata. Ta\u010diau niekam neai\u0161ku, kod\u0117l ant kranto rasti tvarkingai sud\u0117ti jo vir\u0161utiniai drabu\u017eiai. Ma\u017eai tik\u0117tina, kad \u0161altu rudeni\u0161ku oru vyras b\u016bt\u0173 nusprend\u0119s i\u0161simaudyti up\u0117je. Ta\u010diau \u012f \u0161iuos klausimus taip ir liks neatsakyta. Ekspertai pateik\u0117 i\u0161vad\u0105, jog mirtis i\u0161tiko u\u017edusus vandeniu.<br \/>\n<br \/>Prast\u0173 santyki\u0173 su giminai\u010diais neneigianti I. Malinauskien\u0117 sak\u0117 nesuprantanti savo tetos R. Kvasauskien\u0117s pretenzij\u0173 \u012f kapaviet\u0119, kurioje palaidoti Ilonos seneliai.<br \/>\n<br \/>\u2013 Negi vietos po \u017eeme negana? \u2013 steb\u0117josi moteris. \u2013 Juk R. Kvasauskien\u0117 dar turi vyro kapaviet\u0119, tad tikrai neplanuoja po mirties \u0161alia buvusi\u0173 uo\u0161vi\u0173 atgulti. Tuo labiau kad ji yra i\u0161tek\u0117jusi antr\u0105 kart\u0105, tai ir uo\u0161viai jai \u2013 tik buv\u0119, o ne artimi giminai\u010diai.<br \/>\n<br \/><b><br \/>T\u0117vo valia<\/b><br \/>\n<br \/>Ilona neig\u0117, jog su teta Roma per laidotuves b\u016bt\u0173 kalb\u0117jusios apie kapaviet\u0119. Jauna moteris tvirtino net neabejojusi, kur laidos t\u0117v\u0105, mat tokia buvusi jo paties valia. O t\u0117vo valia jai buvo \u0161venta. Moterys tvirtino neketinan\u010dios t\u0117vo vardo kalti bendrame antkapyje, tad svetimu turtu nesinaudosian\u010dios. Ilona steb\u0117josi, jog giminai\u010diai nenori suprasti toki\u0173 elementari\u0173 dalyk\u0173, kad jos invalid\u0117 mama net ne prie kiekvienos kapaviet\u0117s gal\u0117t\u0173 priva\u017eiuoti, tod\u0117l \u0161i vieta, esanti netoli pagrindinio kapini\u0173 keliuko, labai patogi.<br \/>\n<br \/>Pana\u0161u, jog laidotuv\u0117s, kuri\u0173 metu susitik\u0119 giminai\u010diai ketino v\u0117l prad\u0117ti bendrauti, am\u017eiams pra\u017eud\u0117 giminyst\u0117s jausm\u0105. D\u0117l turt\u0173 tarp gyv\u0173j\u0173 prasid\u0117j\u0119 konfliktai persik\u0117l\u0117 ir \u012f kapines.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Egl\u0117 KVIESULAITIEN\u0116 Keistomis aplinkyb\u0117mis \u017euvusiam vilkavi\u0161kie\u010diui net po mirties n\u0117ra ramyb\u0117s. D\u0117l jo kapaviet\u0117s tarp giminai\u010di\u0173 verda aistros. Gyvi pykosi Vilkavi\u0161kiet\u0117 Roma Kvasauskien\u0117 \u012fsitikinusi, kad \u012f jos uo\u0161vi\u0173 kapaviet\u0119 \u017eento&#8230; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":113558,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_FSMCFIC_featured_image_caption":"Uo\u0161vi\u0173 kapaviet\u0119 tvarkanti Roma Kvasauskien\u0117 nesitik\u0117jo, kad be jos \u017einios \u010dia bus palaidotas dar vienas giminaitis. \/ Romo \u010c\u0116PLOS nuotr.","_FSMCFIC_featured_image_nocaption":"","_FSMCFIC_featured_image_hide":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-113557","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","pmpro-has-access"],"featured_image_urls":{"full":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149-300x199.jpg",300,199,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"large":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"visualnews_post_thumb":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"woocommerce_thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149-300x279.jpg",300,279,true],"woocommerce_single":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg",420,279,false],"woocommerce_gallery_thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149-100x100.jpg",100,100,true]},"author_info":{"info":["admin"]},"category_info":"<a href=\"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/category\/uncategorized\/\" rel=\"category tag\">Be kategorijos<\/a>","tag_info":"Be kategorijos","comment_count":"0","jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/20101011230149.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/113557","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=113557"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/113557\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/113558"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=113557"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=113557"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.santaka.info\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=113557"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}